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Breathe Peace + Grow Your Courage

It’s a Friday afternoon, I’m sitting at a coffee shop table next to my friend, Katie, andTake Me to Church by Hozier is playing on the speakers. You know I love a coffee shop to get the delightful mix of caffeine, humanity, and good vibes going. The extroverted part of me thrives on writing nearby others. (I’m an ambivert, by the way – what are you?! 16personalities.com is a good link to check out if those terms mean nothing to you.)

What are you doing this weekend?

Here in Alaska, there’s a chill that’s creeping into the air. Last weekend, a girlfriend and I went camping and I found myself shivering in my sleeping bag! School has started again, and I’m savoring the still green leaves on the trees, and harvesting basil and the last tomatoes from our garden.

I don’t know about you, but in the midst of all of this, I’m feeling a lot of feelings about my brothers and sisters all over the world. I’m thinking of the hurricanes, earthquakes, protests, flooding, forest fires, and all of the people impacted and suffering right now.

I usually write these posts as a way to share more good vibes and inspiration with you, and today I want to remind you it’s okay to feel your feelings. Today, I’m feeling grateful for safety and blue sky, and I’m also sending love to others who are experiencing all sorts of other uncomfortable or dangerous circumstances.

If you find yourself experiencing some of this worry or concern, too, I’d love to remind you (or share with you) about the powerful practice of Tonglen, an ancient Buddhist practice to help us awaken compassion, and transmute pain and suffering. I find this practice very powerful when I’m feeling overwhelmed or worried. It’s simple and profound – my favorite kind of practice.

Here’s a link to a short explanation of the practice of Tonglen from Pema Chodron.

When you have a few moments today, or over the weekend, I encourage you to give it a try. I trust you’ll find value in it as both a mindfulness practice, and a way to send love to those who need it right now.


In other news, we’re starting a new 4 week Courage Circle session exploring the book The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein – starting September 18th.

This will be another way to build your trust in faith and love, and step into more courage in our Open-Hearted Life. The Courage Circle is an online, small group coaching offering and you can read more about it HERE

The investment is $147 || or two payments of $77 || and it includes a copy of the book, a private Facebook community, and weekly online small group coaching with me around the topics in the book, and how to feel and be more courageous in your life. Enroll by Sunday, 9/17.


For those of you nearby Anchorage, this is an in-person workshop! I’m partnering with my good buddy and yoga teacher / adventure leader, Jess Young of Drift, to offer an in person Breath + Courage Workshop – a yoga + small group coaching afternoon workshop (this one’s just for women) on Saturday, 9/30, from 2-5 pm.

The investment is $35, and you can sign up HERE. Space is limited for this one, so sign up early if you’d like to join us!


That’s all for now!

Autumn is an exciting time here at Sol + Heart, so keep your eyes open for more fun + meaningful ways to explore living, loving, and leading with an open heart.

On Boundaries

Today we’re exploring self love and boundaries. You see, earlier this year, I decided I would accept a partial teaching contract at the university, so I would have more time, space, and energy to work on growing Sol + Heart – and supporting you! I’ve been contemplating this move for a few years now, and finally decided it was time.

About two weeks ago, I started getting calls from a variety of supervisors. They all asked the same question, a question I’ve heard many times before. It went something like, “Hi! We have an additional class that we’d like to offer and we’re looking for an instructor. Are you available?”

While I’m flattered they thought of me, this was an opportunity for me to make a choice. I could teach more, and receive a subsequent boost in pay, or I could decline and take the risk that Sol + Heart can grow.

Each time they asked me (and I received 4 requests from different people), I had the opportunity to reflect, be aware of my values and desires, and make a choice. In the past, I’ve said yes. I’ve wanted to be a good team player and I’ve wanted the secured income.

This time, I remembered the boundary I’d set for myself. No more than 3 classes this semester.

So, I declined. I held the boundary I’d set, and politely said, “no thanks.” It was tough, honestly, but I knew I was doing the best thing for myself at this time.

This is an example of an act of self love.

Sometimes, self love means holding a boundary.

I see self love as a mixture of softness and fierceness, and it’s an important part of living an open-hearted life. On the path to creating a more peaceful and loving world, you have to start with how you value and treat yourself.

 I’m learning that I have to set boundaries around how much I give.

I love to give my time, energy, money, and resources to help others.

And I have to have boundaries, so that I don’t over-give and exhaust myself and my resources.

How do you set boundaries in your life?

Boundary setting, as a self love practice, is about understanding how much you’re willing to give or flex, and where you’re not willing to give, and then holding your boundary.

You can do this with love and kindness to others. 

And by doing this, you’re being loving and kind to yourself.

You cannot expect someone else to hold your boundary.

You have to hold your boundary. 

I love coaching people around this topic. I can see the differences in my clients when they really tune into their own self-worth and self love and take a stand for themselves. As I’ve shared before, it’s incredible how saying “no” to one opportunity creates space and opening for another.

If you would like to explore self love more with me, please join me for Radiance: A Self Love CourseThis is an online course and group coaching offering for women I’ve developed with my friend and fellow coach, Blaze Bell, and we’re really excited about the impact this course has on our clients’ lives. We already have a fantastic group of women signed up for it, and we’d love to have you join us if you’re interested!

You can learn more and sign up by clicking HERE. 

Enrollment for the program ends Thursday, 8/31/17, so now’s the time to decide if you’d like to join us!

If you have any questions about whether the course is right for you, please reach out to me via email.

And in the meantime, here’s to loving yourself and honoring your boundaries.

Blueberries + Self Love

Last week, I was on my road trip back from Fairbanks to Anchorage, and I decided to stop to look for blueberries in Broad Pass. Alaskan blueberries are one of my favorite parts of summer up here, so I knew I had to pause to look for them on the drive.

The first place I stopped yielded only a few berries, but I was encouraged with what I saw. I decided to pull off a few miles down the highway again, and this time I let Luna out and set off with my “All Good Things are Wild + Free” Salmon Sisters mug (because I’d forgotten a bag for gathering).

As I made my way through the willow brush, I walked down a little hill. Luna came bounding after me and ran further down the hill to the lake below. (She loves the water.)

Sure enough, there were loads of plump blueberries! There was mist in the air, and I could see Luna swimming in the lake below me. I pulled my hair back in a quick ponytail, knelt down in the bushes, breathed in the Labrador tea and wet earth, and started picking. Every so often, I’d pop a few tart blueberries into my mouth, and then go back to gathering.

After about 20 minutes, my mug was full, and Luna had bounced around me a few times and run back down to the lake. With a mug full of berries, I sat up and looked around me. Luna was swimming below, there was a warm mist swirling around me, and the mountains nearby were still green and peeking through the clouds.

I had this moment of peace, abundance, and gratitude.

In that moment, I thought: THIS IS MY LIFE. This is my beautiful life.

And I felt so thankful.

When I recall this moment, I notice a few things:

1. I followed my intuition to stop and look for berries – and I’m glad I did. 

2. It’s important to pause and appreciate the beautiful moments in your life. 

3. Acts of self love can be as simple as stopping on the side of the highway to wander with your dog – and they can lead to so much peace and goodness. 

When is the last time you followed your intuition and acted out of self love?



For the month of September, my rad coach pal Blaze Bell and I are partnering again to bring you Radiance: A Self Love Course for women.

I love this partnership with Blaze, and this is our third time offering the course together.

Join us for a month of feeling more connected, confident, and loving.

Learn more about the course by clicking HERE.

Allow Yourself to Feel

The Desire Map Planner – and Mountain Cult Jewelry earrings <3 | Photo by Jordan Bird

 

You know, I am mostly a positive person. I often claim positivity as a superpower. I still feel that way most of the time, but I am also learning to appreciate the part of me that doesn’t always feel positive.

She is deep, darker, and grounded. She understands that while she loves the light and sweet parts of life, she can also find beauty in the things that don’t go as planned, the frustrations, and the tough times.

Here’s what you need to know if you find yourself in challenging times:

You can handle any emotion that comes your way. 

You can allow yourself to feel.

There is beauty in the light, and there is beauty in the dark. 

When you allow yourself to feel your emotions without resisting, you open yourself up to the possibility of peace. 

One of my teachers, master coach Brooke Castillo, talks about emotion as simply a vibration in the body. You can allow the vibration. And when you allow the vibration, it often passes.

This also applies to positive emotions, by the way.

So often, we minimize or downplay our good times for fear that we’ll shine to bright or overwhelm someone who is not in the same place.

When you feel happy and joyful – allow these vibrations

When you feel sad or anxious – allow these vibrations

As you grow more accustomed to allowing the emotions, as you learn not to numb the emotions out with your distraction-of-choice (think – alcohol, food, drugs, sex, Netflix, shopping, etc….), you will notice yourself feeling more and more ALIVE.

And this what you want, right? To feel fully alive. 

Here’s to feeling your emotions, my love. 

I know you can do it. I know you can handle it. 

And, of course, if you need support – reach out. Sometimes we need a loved one, a coach, or a therapist to help us process our feelings even more.

If you’re ready for support, I have 4 new openings for one-on-one (1:1) clients starting in August. 

Here are some reasons you might want a life coach (because at this point, I believe we can all benefit from having a coach on our support team):

You want life to flow with ease.

You want to feel happier and more vibrant.

You want to take action.

You want to do meaningful work.

You want to take care of yourself in the kindest of ways.

You want to feel open-hearted and loving in your relationships.

You want to show up and be an authentic leader.

You want to live life fully.

Through 1:1 coaching with me, you have personalized support. Clients work with me between 3-6 months minimum – which means you have me on your team to help you find the mindset, strategy, and follow through to make things happen in your life.

So, if you need support with living, loving, and leading with an open heart (in other words – with courage, kindness, and authenticity), I’d love to be on your team.

If you’d like to explore the possibility of coaching more, apply HERE for a free Spark Session with me! Once you fill out an application, I’ll contact you to schedule our 30 minute free call/Skype session to explore how we could work together, how coaching can support you, and if we’re the right match.

Oh – and here’s an example of my coaching clients’ experiences with 1:1 Coaching:

“Having Solveig as my life coach has been an amazing experience. Talking with her always gives me new insights into my life, new perspectives regarding myself and new ways to share my authentic soul with the world. I have grown so much with her help, support and guidance. Working with her makes me feel as if I have my own personal cheerleader in this game of life.”  – Hope Wallace, hopewallace.com

–> Also, if you could use extra love and support right now with trusting where you are in life, remember, I made you this Trust Yourself Guided Visualization. I’ve heard back from some of you about how the experience was for you – and it’s been so fun for me to know that it was helpful. If you haven’t tried it yet – follow this link HERE – take 15 minutes – and build your self-trust a bit more today.

What Season is it for You?

Yesterday, I had a great conversation about *joy* with my new friend Maya Hampton, The Joy Expert (@sayyes2joy on Insta).

We met each other through my amazing friend and rad coaching buddy Blaze Bell via Instagram, which is one of my favorite ways to make new friends!

(Btw, are we Insta friends yet? Let’s be friends! I’m @solandheart)

Maya and I had a wonderful conversation about seasons, the cycles of our lives, and finding light amidst the darkness. I loved talking with her, and our conversation inspired me to write you today.

First, those of you in the northern hemisphere might be experiencing the long summer days, and noticing yourself staying up later and trying to get more done – it is SUMMER, after all!?

Up here in Alaska, I notice in many of us the desire to get out and do ALL THE FUN THINGS because it is light and warm and YOU MUST…before it’s winter again, right?!

We feel like we must take advantage of the season, and yet sometimes it exhausts us. We stay up too late, we don’t get normal life things (like laundry) done – because we’re pushing to do all the things.

This is so much fun at times! (And you know, I advocate for *fun* in life as much as possible.) Each summer, I find myself putting chores aside so that I can go out and play – trusting that things will get done eventually – and I’ll have alllll winter to clean.

Sometimes, though, this pace of life can get to be too much.

Remember, you don’t have to be on the move all the time. 

Listen to your body.

If you have energy for fun, go for it! 

And…if your body is telling you that it might need to rest a bit, to recuperate before the next adventure – listen to that, too.

Your body will tell you what it needs. 

Regardless of what season it is where you are in the world, this feeling can be like the metaphorical springs and summers of our lives. There are times in our lives, no matter what season outside, in which we feel energetic, excited, and super productive. We feel creative, in flow, and like we can do all the things with ease. There are other times that are like the autumns and winters of our lives…times in which we want to curl up, get cozy, and let the time pass without being productive in any way. We may notice the ebb of our energy, and the desire to hermit; to let time pass and just be. In the past, I would feel stressed when these times showed up in my life. I would wonder with concern – Where has my inspiration gone? Have I lost my creativity and motivation!? I would question whether I really needed to watch one more Netflix episode, or sleep in that extra hour that my body was telling me it needed.

I have learned now to trust those signals.

Our lives move in cycles, sometimes aligned with the seasons, and sometimes not.

Where are you in your life? 

Is it spring, summer, autumn, or winter? 

This morning, I opened Rebecca Campbell’s book, Rise Sister Rise, as I do most mornings (it’s part of my morning self-care ritual to read something inspiring) and found these words:

Trust the natural flow of your inner seasons and don’t push yourself to bloom all year. There are times for sowing, times for blossoming, and times for retreating and going into hibernation. There is plenty of room for all of us to rise in our own perfect time. What is another person’s summer may be your winter. But come spring, positions will be reversed. Trust your inner seasons and remember: spring returns to delight us each and every year. 

What wonderful timing! Whenever this kind of synchronicity happens (like, I’m thinking of the seasons and cycles, and I turn to the perfect page in a book), I see it as a wink from the Universe; a sweet reminder we are on the right path.

If you want extra love and support right now with trusting where you are in life, remember, I made you this Trust Yourself Guided Visualization earlier this month. I’ve heard back from some of you about how the experience was for you – and it’s been so fun for me to know that it was helpful. If you haven’t tried it yet – follow this link HERE – take 15 minutes – and build your self-trust a bit more today.

—> Also, I have two 1:1 Open-Hearted Life, Love, and Leadership Coaching spaces opening up in August. Are you ready for 1:1 Coaching support? I’d love to chat with you. Fill out a Spark Session Application HERE and experience a free 30 minute introductory session to decide if coaching is right for you. ❤️