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Wanna Go on a Date?

 

Have you noticed how dating can either be

the worst – or the best?!  

One of my clients has been online dating after being out of the dating scene for a while. We’ve gotten to go deep with some vulnerability she was feeling. And we also had fun, getting her online dating profile to communicate who she really is, and going through the profiles of men and women she’s considering meeting.

​​​​​There’s so many ways that dating can feel complicated. Maybe you’re dating for the first time in a long time and navigating transition. Or you’ve been dating for a while now…and you’re starting lose hope. Or perhaps you’re happily single, partnered, married or divorced, but you know someone who’s dating and needs this. (I bet you do.)

One of my favorite things to coach my clients through is dating.

Why?

Because dating can suck. And dating can be super fun.

It’s all about your mindset. And how you view the process. It’s about being open to possibilities, even when you carry around a bit of baggage.

As the holidays draw nearer and it gets colder outside – maybe you wish you had someone to cuddle up with. Maybe you find dating on your mind…

Have no fear. I’m here for you.

I’m opening up six spaces for 1:1 Dating Coaching starting this month, and I’d love for YOU to join me. Remember, I coach people all over the world – so as long as you have a phone or Skype line, I can be your coach. (Apply here for one of the spaces.) 

What is 1:1 Dating Coaching?

I’ll support you in both the inner work and the outer work to feel clear, confident, courageous, authentic, sexy, and open in your dating life. We’ll explore what’s up with your mind, heart, and intentions – and then we’ll look at how you’re presenting yourself (online profiles, anyone?), communicating, and what the heck you do if you actually meet someone you like.

What’s the Investment?

Your time and energy! We’ll meet twice per month for an hour – via phone or Skype – for your 1:1 personalized sessions.

Two Coaching Packages: 

  • 1:1 Dating Coaching | Transition: 3 Months = One Payment of $675 or 3 monthly payments of $235.
  • 1:1 Dating Coaching | Transformation: 6 Months = One Payment of $1350 or 6 monthly payments of $235.

*Other payment plans will be considered upon request.

How do we get started?

Fill out a short 1:1 Dating Coaching Application. Once I receive your application, I’ll review it and follow up with you via email.

Let’s find the fun in dating!

Join me for 1:1 Dating Coaching.

APPLY HERE. 

 

What’s a Mastermind?

What is the project you love so much you can get lost in it?

What is the idea you have that has so much potential, and you know all you need to do is give it some attention?

Many of us have creative dreams that we want to follow.

Whether it’s a story to be written, an album to be recorded, a business idea you’re longing to begin, a cause that needs attention, a blog to be launched, or a small business you’re already growing, it takes courage and commitment to make it happen.

Some of us have started along the path already, and it’s not easy to go it alone. Most of us long for support along the way. We wish for someone to talk to about our project and idea, to strategize with us, to cheer us on, to help us keep going when it gets tough.

When I look back on my creative project +  business endeavor (Sol + Heart), I can see how many people have helped me along the way. Thankfully, my family and friends have encouraged and supported me. I also made the decision, (and continue making the decision), to sign up for opportunities to help me grow. I work with coaches and teachers who help me grow strategically in my creative dream.

Two programs that helped me (and that I enjoyed) the most, were called “masterminds groups.” You may have never heard of a mastermind group before, but I have found them to be incredibly beneficial! In mastermind groups, you meet with a group of like-minded individuals working on projects (or businesses) and with them you can tackle challenges, support each other, share connections, and possibly find people to collaborate with – depending on what you’re working on in your project. You’re also supported by a coach who supports, coaches, mentors, and guides you along the way. They form an exclusive community in which you receive coaching, advice, connections, and develop community for a set amount of time.

In my experience with masterminds, I have been challenged, encouraged, made new friends with great people, and been inspired to stay committed to my dreams. I can look back and see how much momentum I gained through having the support of a small group and an excellent coach and teacher who could support me.

So, I have a mastermind for you! It’s called the Open-Hearted Changemakers Intensive – an online “mastermind” group opportunity (for those who don’t know or like the name “mastermind”). This program is one in which you will receive high-level group coaching from me, and you’ll also benefit from the collective intelligence of the other participants in the program.

I am so excited to be offering this opportunity – and I encourage you to consider joining us! There is space for nine people total in the group – and you have to apply for the program. If you are interested in this opportunity, click HERE to learn more and apply. The application deadline is Wednesday, 10/4/17 and we begin 10/8/17.

And – as part of my community, make sure you check out the **Earlybird Discount.** If you apply + register between now & Friday (9/29) of this week, you receive $100 off the enrollment price.

I hope you’ll consider joining us!

Breathe Peace + Grow Your Courage

It’s a Friday afternoon, I’m sitting at a coffee shop table next to my friend, Katie, andTake Me to Church by Hozier is playing on the speakers. You know I love a coffee shop to get the delightful mix of caffeine, humanity, and good vibes going. The extroverted part of me thrives on writing nearby others. (I’m an ambivert, by the way – what are you?! 16personalities.com is a good link to check out if those terms mean nothing to you.)

What are you doing this weekend?

Here in Alaska, there’s a chill that’s creeping into the air. Last weekend, a girlfriend and I went camping and I found myself shivering in my sleeping bag! School has started again, and I’m savoring the still green leaves on the trees, and harvesting basil and the last tomatoes from our garden.

I don’t know about you, but in the midst of all of this, I’m feeling a lot of feelings about my brothers and sisters all over the world. I’m thinking of the hurricanes, earthquakes, protests, flooding, forest fires, and all of the people impacted and suffering right now.

I usually write these posts as a way to share more good vibes and inspiration with you, and today I want to remind you it’s okay to feel your feelings. Today, I’m feeling grateful for safety and blue sky, and I’m also sending love to others who are experiencing all sorts of other uncomfortable or dangerous circumstances.

If you find yourself experiencing some of this worry or concern, too, I’d love to remind you (or share with you) about the powerful practice of Tonglen, an ancient Buddhist practice to help us awaken compassion, and transmute pain and suffering. I find this practice very powerful when I’m feeling overwhelmed or worried. It’s simple and profound – my favorite kind of practice.

Here’s a link to a short explanation of the practice of Tonglen from Pema Chodron.

When you have a few moments today, or over the weekend, I encourage you to give it a try. I trust you’ll find value in it as both a mindfulness practice, and a way to send love to those who need it right now.


In other news, we’re starting a new 4 week Courage Circle session exploring the book The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein – starting September 18th.

This will be another way to build your trust in faith and love, and step into more courage in our Open-Hearted Life. The Courage Circle is an online, small group coaching offering and you can read more about it HERE

The investment is $147 || or two payments of $77 || and it includes a copy of the book, a private Facebook community, and weekly online small group coaching with me around the topics in the book, and how to feel and be more courageous in your life. Enroll by Sunday, 9/17.


For those of you nearby Anchorage, this is an in-person workshop! I’m partnering with my good buddy and yoga teacher / adventure leader, Jess Young of Drift, to offer an in person Breath + Courage Workshop – a yoga + small group coaching afternoon workshop (this one’s just for women) on Saturday, 9/30, from 2-5 pm.

The investment is $35, and you can sign up HERE. Space is limited for this one, so sign up early if you’d like to join us!


That’s all for now!

Autumn is an exciting time here at Sol + Heart, so keep your eyes open for more fun + meaningful ways to explore living, loving, and leading with an open heart.

On Boundaries

Today we’re exploring self love and boundaries. You see, earlier this year, I decided I would accept a partial teaching contract at the university, so I would have more time, space, and energy to work on growing Sol + Heart – and supporting you! I’ve been contemplating this move for a few years now, and finally decided it was time.

About two weeks ago, I started getting calls from a variety of supervisors. They all asked the same question, a question I’ve heard many times before. It went something like, “Hi! We have an additional class that we’d like to offer and we’re looking for an instructor. Are you available?”

While I’m flattered they thought of me, this was an opportunity for me to make a choice. I could teach more, and receive a subsequent boost in pay, or I could decline and take the risk that Sol + Heart can grow.

Each time they asked me (and I received 4 requests from different people), I had the opportunity to reflect, be aware of my values and desires, and make a choice. In the past, I’ve said yes. I’ve wanted to be a good team player and I’ve wanted the secured income.

This time, I remembered the boundary I’d set for myself. No more than 3 classes this semester.

So, I declined. I held the boundary I’d set, and politely said, “no thanks.” It was tough, honestly, but I knew I was doing the best thing for myself at this time.

This is an example of an act of self love.

Sometimes, self love means holding a boundary.

I see self love as a mixture of softness and fierceness, and it’s an important part of living an open-hearted life. On the path to creating a more peaceful and loving world, you have to start with how you value and treat yourself.

 I’m learning that I have to set boundaries around how much I give.

I love to give my time, energy, money, and resources to help others.

And I have to have boundaries, so that I don’t over-give and exhaust myself and my resources.

How do you set boundaries in your life?

Boundary setting, as a self love practice, is about understanding how much you’re willing to give or flex, and where you’re not willing to give, and then holding your boundary.

You can do this with love and kindness to others. 

And by doing this, you’re being loving and kind to yourself.

You cannot expect someone else to hold your boundary.

You have to hold your boundary. 

I love coaching people around this topic. I can see the differences in my clients when they really tune into their own self-worth and self love and take a stand for themselves. As I’ve shared before, it’s incredible how saying “no” to one opportunity creates space and opening for another.

If you would like to explore self love more with me, please join me for Radiance: A Self Love CourseThis is an online course and group coaching offering for women I’ve developed with my friend and fellow coach, Blaze Bell, and we’re really excited about the impact this course has on our clients’ lives. We already have a fantastic group of women signed up for it, and we’d love to have you join us if you’re interested!

You can learn more and sign up by clicking HERE. 

Enrollment for the program ends Thursday, 8/31/17, so now’s the time to decide if you’d like to join us!

If you have any questions about whether the course is right for you, please reach out to me via email.

And in the meantime, here’s to loving yourself and honoring your boundaries.

Blueberries + Self Love

Last week, I was on my road trip back from Fairbanks to Anchorage, and I decided to stop to look for blueberries in Broad Pass. Alaskan blueberries are one of my favorite parts of summer up here, so I knew I had to pause to look for them on the drive.

The first place I stopped yielded only a few berries, but I was encouraged with what I saw. I decided to pull off a few miles down the highway again, and this time I let Luna out and set off with my “All Good Things are Wild + Free” Salmon Sisters mug (because I’d forgotten a bag for gathering).

As I made my way through the willow brush, I walked down a little hill. Luna came bounding after me and ran further down the hill to the lake below. (She loves the water.)

Sure enough, there were loads of plump blueberries! There was mist in the air, and I could see Luna swimming in the lake below me. I pulled my hair back in a quick ponytail, knelt down in the bushes, breathed in the Labrador tea and wet earth, and started picking. Every so often, I’d pop a few tart blueberries into my mouth, and then go back to gathering.

After about 20 minutes, my mug was full, and Luna had bounced around me a few times and run back down to the lake. With a mug full of berries, I sat up and looked around me. Luna was swimming below, there was a warm mist swirling around me, and the mountains nearby were still green and peeking through the clouds.

I had this moment of peace, abundance, and gratitude.

In that moment, I thought: THIS IS MY LIFE. This is my beautiful life.

And I felt so thankful.

When I recall this moment, I notice a few things:

1. I followed my intuition to stop and look for berries – and I’m glad I did. 

2. It’s important to pause and appreciate the beautiful moments in your life. 

3. Acts of self love can be as simple as stopping on the side of the highway to wander with your dog – and they can lead to so much peace and goodness. 

When is the last time you followed your intuition and acted out of self love?



For the month of September, my rad coach pal Blaze Bell and I are partnering again to bring you Radiance: A Self Love Course for women.

I love this partnership with Blaze, and this is our third time offering the course together.

Join us for a month of feeling more connected, confident, and loving.

Learn more about the course by clicking HERE.